Taking Up Space Podcast Deanne Love Inner Wisdom

Taking up space: Creating boundaries & widening your circle

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“Taking up space” I first became acquainted with the depth of this term on a cold, wooden floor in a dance studio in the back streets of Brunswick East in Melbourne. The class was called Movement Medicine, I had rushed to get there on time, and dropped into the warmth of the women guiding the class with ease, quickly acclimatizing to the chill swirling around my body on the Winter’s morning. Everything felt flowy and rich until one of the facilitators had us move boldly and intuitively through the space as she repeatedly asked “how much space do you dare to take up? how much space do you truly dare to take up in this life?”

That sent me on a life spiral of inner discovery to answer this question. Still spinning.

Have you ever been to Tokyo? Still considered the most populated city in the world with 37.4 million humans living in one highly functioning megacity. It is my favorite place on the planet. Space is limited, very limited but here is what makes it so magical, the Japanese have an incredible relationship with space, they are wise enough to know that it is not abundant but if you are one with everything that is around you then you can make your own space even in the squishiest of situations.

It is one of the greatest lessons I learned in my almost decade of living there. Look for space within the jam-packed, make your own peace in the chaos. You can’t fight the crowds you must go with the flow, you can’t eliminate the human traffic but you can feel abundantly spacious within your own physical and mental territory even on the most tightly packed train. And here is an even more powerful lesson I learned, yes you can stand out, stand up and be seen and heard in a city of 37 million, you can create expansiveness and feel incredible abundant flow, the key is to stand your ground, know your unique worth and radiate that brightly, the city she will reward you for your courage and you will be catapulted into a life that is deep, alive, soul shaking and connected. This I know to be the truth. Don’t back down from your greatest challenges they are there to light you up.

Ever had really incredible sushi, Japanese sushi, the rice is packed so tightly and yet somehow it feels light, fluffy and full of air. This is known as sushi zume. Also the name of my first ever blog in 2004. My relationship with space has been eternal.

What if someone asks you for more space? How does that land? How do we respond to that? You want more space? From me? Because I am taking up too much of yours or because you are not feeling bold enough to create your own space so you ask me to step back thinking that will give you more space? Is that how it works? Aren’t we all coexisting, some of us just a little more closely than others, some a little more peacefully than others. Are we competing for space? Where is the perimeter of your space and what happens when my boundary overlaps yours?

Like a venn diagram. Over lapping circles both with equal potential, equal space. The volume of space in each of the individual circles is greater than the expanse of the overlapping center piece but it is the center that blossoms the power co-creation. In Sacred Geometry the center, the eye, the womb of the Universe is known as the Vesica Pisces. The pointed oval shape in the inner realm where the meeting of minds, hearts and bodies exist. Everything in all of creation is believed to have come from this meeting. The over lapping. Without it we would not exist.

Aren’t we all overlapping into each other’s space? If you need to take up more space don’t you simply widen your circle and invite everyone else to do the same if they choose to. Is that not how nature works? I guess it never comes without it’s growing pains. If my circle widens, and so does yours, then that space in the middle where we intersect also expands making way for new creations.

How do you know if you need more space? How do you compassionately take up more in this world? Or do you furiously need to fight for it?

Well, firstly you can start to look for the signs that space is tight, in any situation in your life.

It is like your home, your abode.

Is there too much clutter? Are things crammed in? Is it all a little too overloaded? Are you messy in your head? Are you allowing the stuff that sparks joy to stay? Cherishing it? Or are you filling your space with more useless junk? Are you being excessive? Overeating? Over purchasing? Overindulging?

Do you build a bigger house? Or do you get rid of some stuff? And which bin does the clutter go in anyway?

Are your walls crumbling with wear & tear? Are your shelves buckling under the pressure? Do you do some repairs and strengthen your structures? Or do you lighten your load and give things a fresh coat of paint? Do you simply lock the door, draw the curtains and let nothing else in?

And the ultimate barometer. How are you feeling? Knowing that at any given moment you have the fullest power and richest tools to reach for an even better feeling.

Are you feeling reactive? Annoyed? Frustrated? Worried? Unheard? Can you make space in your own physical and mental territory for a higher vibration, just like the Japanese looking for negative space in the flow of 37 million people? No one ever bumps into each other and they all glide and become one like a school of highly intuitive fish. Or are you feeling expansive, hopeful and joyous?

Shall we do a thought experiment? Grab your journal. If you are driving or don’t have your journal close by, just answer these questions in your head.

What does taking up space mean for you?

Are there areas in your life where you feel like you need more space? Physically? Room to move. Emotionally? Room to feel. Spiritually? Room to be.

What practices can you invite in and devote yourself to in order to create that space? Is there a physical practice that would make you feel more spacious? Is there an emotional ritual that would invite in more space? Is there a spiritual shift that you can make to open up your capacity to navigate spaciousness?

Why do you need to take up more space? Why do you want to?

If you have more space in this world what will it allow you to do?

How will it make you feel?

What if it were easy? What would that look like?

What if it were instantaneously available to you? What shift in perspective might that invite from you?

What if, all the space we really need is already inside of us? If we took a microscope and looked inside what we perceive to be our physical body (although for all the quantum physicists in the room we know that there really is no such thing as the physical it is all just energy right? But that is another podcast all together) we would see cells, and in the middle of those cells you would find our incredible unique DNA (the same exclusive DNA that stakes your claim as an individual in this world with all the space you need), inside your DNA you find atoms. What do you think is inside your atoms? Apart from protons, neutrons and electrons what you will find inside your atoms is absolutely unlimited SPACE. 99.9999 % space All the space you could ever need is right inside of you. Maybe this is what the Japanese intuitively know and believe so well and why they exist so harmoniously with limited external space. Everything you need is already inside of you.

Let’s journey together>>

Drop into the Guided Meditation: Taking up space

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Fierce clarity.  Wild creativity.  Spirited courage.

These three pursuits sometimes get me in trouble. I wouldn’t have it any other way. Are you with me? 

Let’s do the deep work together. Let’s find focus in a world of distractions. Let’s make change. Let’s connect to our inner wisdom.


You will mostly find me activating people to drop from their head, down into their body. That is where the real wisdom is. 

I made a commitment over a decade ago to awaken my deepest intelligence through creative movement and activated voice. Let’s dance. Let’s take up space together.

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